Wednesday, February 24, 2010

People want a job but they don't want to work

I am so confused. Jobs are not easy to find, people are having a hard time making ends meet, and yet, the people who are suppose to be working on my site with me are not writing, returning phone calls, signing contracts, or anything else they said they were going to do. I think this high altitude makes the people here a bit stuck on stupid or lazy. My vote is out.
I am sure when they have no money and need five minutes of work I will hear back.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Bad Manners all around

Manners-a lost art

Remember the good old days where people say Thank you, Please, held doors and didn’t try and run you over with their cars?
After being backed into today physically (I’m not hurt) I was informed by this bitch that it was my job to look out for her, and then she stared swearing at me. Really? Anyone that knows me would be afraid for her about right now; did I mention she was maybe late sixties? I had my words with no holding back and witnesses, but in the end decided she was not going to ruin my day and she almost hit another car on her way out, I am not kidding.
Then the woman at the post office who I let go ahead of me (she had screaming kids) gave me a dirty look and stormed in front of me all entitled. There was no “Thanks” involved at all, and on her way out she couldn’t be bothered to hold the door for the older gentleman behind her. Rudeness is everywhere, and it is so hard not to be taken into it and responsive (which I normally am). I still hold doors, allow the person with only one item to go ahead, I say please, I return phones calls, emails and letters in a timely manner. I think maybe I am the one over doing it, and my expectations for everyone else are just to damn high.
I have two contractors that have not yet bothered to read or sign their contracts for employment, an attorney that was suppose to call me back a week ago, what is so important that we can’t do and get the simplest of things done? Is this just a bigger picture of what I have to expect in running my own business? I even had a deadline on the contracts. People just assume it is fine to get to all things manner related when they please. It is disturbing. Worse yet, people are teaching their kids these great traits and now there is a whole new world of wee brats running around.
My sister has two kids and has instilled phenomenal manners in both of them and doesn’t tolerate any rudeness or disrespect from either, and they don’t give it. I wish more people did that.
After spending far too much time in public today, I know for sure I made the right decision business wise. I would rather run a website than something public. I can sit in the background and only have to deal with all the craziness when it suits me.

All this and it’s not even 2:30 PM- I won’t even start in on customer service via phone~

Saturday, February 20, 2010

A quote

Do you ever hear or read quotes and they just strike you?

I heard this the other day, and thought, wow!

We are the average of the five people we are around the most~ Jim Rohn
I started thinking about that now and years past, and it makes sense. Have you ever hung out with someone who is really negative, controlling and mean, and found you started acting that way? Or, someone that is really great and just motivates you to want to be a better person? We often stay in friendships because we have had them for a really long time and feel we need to be loyal, even when we know the friendship has died. Being with people that you don't really like and are in your five can alter who you are to some degree.

The woman who used this quote used it in a snobby way. She said when she heard this she realized her Friend's were not going anywhere or were never going to be wealthy, and she knew she needed to surround herself with wealthy people so she could be more like them. I thought that was shallow and snobby. I took it this quote differently, I guess. I took it to mean character and integrity. It was an impressive quote.
Here is a few others by the same man.

"Don't just read the easy stuff. You may be entertained by it, but you will never grow from it."

"Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better."

"The most important question to ask in a job is not what am I getting but what am I becoming."

Friday, February 19, 2010

Random Updates

My latest read on the MLC isn’t proving to be helpful. I think it is something I will just have to suck up and shake off. I can’t afford that Mercedes SUV so I suppose I can’t go total Mid life now can I?

My website project: I am in the midst of starting an affordable local advertising website, and after dragging my feet it is slowly starting to go places. I say that in the sense that I have an idea of where I want it to go and am going to pay my web guy. I have a few great writers that I am excited about and am still taking suggestions for what kind of content people like to see/read when visiting a website. I am hoping success is looming!

My healthy lifestyle: For those of you who read my other blog, all two of you. It is finally making sense. Not just the eating and walking. The total package-feeling better and really wanting to be better. I don’t want to go into my next decade overweight, whining that this and that hurts (It kind of does) and not be the best me I can be. I think I am really truly getting it. I started running on my treadmill; I guess it’s not just for looks it actually works if you plug it in. I LOVE the feeling I get when my heart is pumping hard and my endorphins are blasting away. It is the coolest kind of high. All that in just a couple minutes. I am working my way to more time…baby steps.

Stomach issues still unresolved but I got sick of dealing with it. I think it could be food allergies.
Mental state: Still unknown

Monday, February 15, 2010

The Midlife Crisis

I feel like I am having and have been having a Midlife crisis for sometime. I started researching it and it is pretty common. I am not sure how common at 39, but common going into the next two decades.

Since I am constantly thinking of how I can reinvent myself, I thought it was just a thing we women do at 40. Shed our skin and have a rebirth or sorts. I guess this can also be part of the "Crisis". This does not just happen during menopause as some may think. I am not the rarity that I thought I was, thank goodness.

I have not gone as far as to make dramatic changes, I just think about doing it. Here are some other things it says we feel or think about while our minds are swirling with confusion:

Change for the sake of change-I am feeling this a lot.

Questioning everything in one’s life and feeling “trapped”- A bit

Sudden obsession with appearance and spending inordinate amounts of time the mirror- I don’t do this but am having the same body image issues I had as a teen. I am aware I can’t have my teen body back, but would still like to have a great shape again.

Excessive reminiscing about youth and previous loves- No, I would if I was allowed a do over pass.

Self admission- Yes, a bit.

I do wonder if we women just have better self control than men, since they normally cheat, workout more, buy stupid cars and so on. I would blow money on a Mercedes SUV, but have planned on that before this unplanned attack on my mind. So, it doesn't count.

I have zero stress about turning 40, but am starting to become more stressed out over my current state of mind, or lack there of.
Since I can't seem to figure this all out, I started reading The Breaking Point, by Sue Shellenbarger.
Hopefully I will learn something.

If this is a rebirth-I want to come out looking more like Cindy Crawford. Let the butterfly emerge. Sooner rather than later, please!

P.S. I would like a side dose of my sanity back, too. Maybe more enlightened if possible.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Brain Storming

One of my goals before turning 40 is to get my business started-off the ground and hopefully with some decent income coming in. It has been a very strange weekend, one with a lot of thought, ideas and simple wonderment. I am a list girl, a big list girl. At any given time you could find at minimum ten to do list and fifty or more post it notes with ideas on them. I have a bad post it addiction. I went though some of the post its, thought about things I do and don't need, things I can and can't live without and renewed, for now, my motivation. Of course it helps that I have a couple decent clients that I will be working with. It will in actually cost me $20 a month or so to run the business. That is not the extras like a reliable web designer and graphics person, and that is per job and not that costly. My new clients check technically will cover the next six months of my service hosting and phone bill. Not bad. Now I just need to get to the bank and open a checking account.
I have been brainstorming like a mad woman. Aside from my ad site, I am looking at some other really great Internet marketing ideas to work on. I have had the good fortune to meet some great people and successful people that are in the same field. It is always great to compare notes and observe what others in your interested field are doing and succeeding at.

If you were to stumble upon a local ad site in your area what kinds of articles and tidbits would get your attention and keep you coming back? I would love to hear!

Friday, February 5, 2010

I have been very ungraciously spinning all week long. Trying to look for part time employment as well as get my very large to do list checked off. When you own your own business and it hasn't really launched just yet, you have no one else to help with the list. I listen to a lot of podcasts and one touched on this subject in a way that has me making some changes. Marketing can't wait, the intro can't wait, I have a lot of stuff on hold and I need to chip at it bit by bit until it gets done.

While on my hunt for employment I found a new client for my ad businesses, it turns out he also wants me to set up a simple website for him, do his logo, legalize his business, and the best part...he does PR for some other great companies locally and would be willing to pass my information out for discounted ads. I am a bit excited and have yet to finish his bid, that whole slacking big list is in my way. I will be getting started on that as soon as I am done with this post. Who knew that a simple local ad site would have a to do list of fifty things?

On my mission to reinvent I went and had my hair cut short. I needed a change and I think with all things there is an age appropriate way to be. I have never in my life had a blunt bob, but I do now. I can moose it and go curly or blow it straight for a nice professional look. I am liking it. I really wanted to do a Diane Keaton cut, but I am just not there yet. Small changes.

I am curious to why it seems like only men do internet marketing, and I can't find any women out there that have succeeded at it or are educated in it. Any information on this subject would be welcomed.